Parental Indecision occurs when one experiences a consistent lack of clarity about whether or not they want to have children. If this sounds familiar to you, you may have attempted to find clarity but continue to feel ambivalent, confused, anxious, or overwhelmed at the idea of having to make a choice about becoming a parent or raising children. You may find that you are repeatedly asking questions like “Do I want to have a baby?” or hoping a google search is going to provide you with an answer to “How to decide if I should have kids”.
Therapy can bring new reflections and insights that allow you to more fully explore the complex dynamics that influence your parenthood indecision. In addition to helping you build clarity about your decision to become a parent, therapy can help you to explore the impacts of your decision and build the awareness you need to make informed choices about your next steps.
It may be time to consider seeking therapy for Parenthood Indecision if you notice any of the following…
You are continuing to feel stuck or uncertain even after you’ve explored this topic on your own
You are nervous about how this decision will impact other relationships in your life
You notice the idea of becoming a parent is bringing up concerns about your body
A fear of regret is keeping you feeling “stuck” or unable to make a decision
You feel guilty or overwhelmed about making a choice not to become a parent
You and your partner(s) have conflicting perspectives on becoming a parents
Exploring the decision to parent is bringing up unresolved issues or unanticipated concerns
You are overwhelmed by uncertainty, ambivalence, or a sense of urgency to make the “right choice”