Wondering how to know if you want to become a parent? Can't decide if having kids is the right choice for you? Parenthood Indecision occurs when one isn’t sure about whether or not they want to have children. A qualified therapist can help you make a decision about whether or not you want to have children. Read on to explore how therapy can help you decide whether or not motherhood is for you.
Why can't I decide if I want to have kids?
The decision about whether or not to become a parent is one that most individuals will face at some point in their lives. Some people feel they have known the answer for their entire lives while others have considered this decision for years and still find themselves unsure of how they want to move forward. If this uncertainty feels familiar to you, it may be that you are experiencing parenthood indecision.
Parental Indecision occurs when one isn’t sure about whether or not they want to have children. Oftentimes those who experience Parenthood Indecision have attempted to find clarity but continue to feel ambivalent, confused, anxious, or overwhelmed at the idea of having to make a choice about becoming a parent or raising children.
How do I know if I want to have kids or not?
You may have started this journey to answer questions like “do I want to have a baby” and found that the answer to this question was more complex than you anticipated. Oftentimes decisions about parenting are influenced by external factors or personal experiences that become clearer as you begin to navigate the feelings and perceptions you have about becoming a parent.
The key to knowing whether or not you want to become a mother is understanding the emotions, perceptions, and experiences that have led to your indecision.
Oftentimes women experiencing parenthood indecision put tremendous amounts of effort into trying to understand their feelings, but continue to feel ambivalent, confused, anxious, or overwhelmed at the idea of having to make a choice about becoming a parent or raising children.
For many, exploring the decision to parent brings up unresolved issues or unanticipated concerns. You may have started this journey to answer questions like “do I want to have a baby” and found that the answer to this question was more complex than you anticipated. Oftentimes decisions about parenting are influenced by external factors or personal experiences that become clearer as you begin to navigate the feelings and perceptions you have about becoming a parent. Maybe you’re becoming aware that this decision is going to have some impacts on other areas of your life that may create conflict or discomfort.
As you further explore the idea of parenthood, you may notice strong themes of guilt, ambivalence overwhelm, or anxiety urgency that are tied to this decision.
It can be easy to blur the line between what others say you should do and what you actually want for yourself. In this space it’s really easy to become overwhelmed by our emotions and perceptions of what we “should” be feeling. It’s easy to go from thinking “I should know the answer, this shouldn’t be so hard” to “something is wrong with me, I can’t trust myself to make this decision”.
The answer to knowing whether or not you want to become a mother is to begin reconnecting with yourself and understanding the emotions that are keeping you stuck in indecision. Emotions are an essential part of a conscious decision-making process!
By understanding how your emotions influence your indecision, you can make more informed and effective decisions that align with your desires, goals, and values.
Can therapy help me decide if I want to have kids?
Parenthood indecision therapy provides support to women who are making decisions about how, when, and if they want to become parents. In addition to helping you build clarity about your decision to become a parent, therapy can help you to explore the impacts of your decision and build the awareness you need to make informed choices about your next steps.
One of the biggest goals of parenthood indecision therapy is to help you to tune into and better understand your own emotions, needs, and desires so that you can make an informed, conscious decision about what you want for your future. If you're undecided about whether or not you want to have children, a therapist experienced in parenthood indecision therapy can help you explore feelings of anxiety and ambivalence so that you can move forward with confidence and clarity.
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Hi, I'm Jessica! I'm a therapist who specializes in helping women decide whether they want to have kids or remain childfree. I understand how tough this decision can be, and you're not alone. After my own struggle with parenthood indecision, I am passionate about helping women understand what it looks like for them to build lives that are fulfilling and authentic.
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